Some have said I'm brave for writing about this. I don't know about brave, but I am tired. I'm tired of more importance being put on size and appearance, than kindness and inward beauty. Don't get me wrong. I have spent far too much time thinking about how I look. Those of you who know me well, know I like being a girl. I like to get dolled up. But, my eating disorder has been a rude awakening that life is so much more than striving to be pretty or be a size whatever (fill in the blank with your appropriate dream size). Would I still like to be skinny? Well, of course. It's been imprinted on our brains since the time we are little girls that skinny=pretty=happy. But, what would happen if we were to start teaching our daughters that they are beautiful, because they are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that beauty doesn't really have to do with size, shape, or color. God made us. He loves us. That is what's beautiful. What if we were to teach them this formula: love(for God, others, and ourselves)=beautiful=happy.
Our culture is messed up. On one rack in the check out line we have the nakie magazines. You know, the ones where all the women are dressed in clothes that show off their awesome bods and we think wow, that'd be nice (after the shock of seeing too many tatas and and too little tact). On another rack we have the "healthy" magazines that contain tips about losing 10 lbs in a week, and having the perfect abs. On yet another rack we have Paula Dean's smiling face and the recipe for her butter, sugar, shortening, chocolate chip, heart attack dessert with whipped cream on top (which I'm sure tastes aaa-mmm-aa-zzz-ii-nnggg) and titles like "treat yourself." How confusing.
We are obsessed with looking like models. We are quick to try new diets. On the other side, though, we are also fascinated with new recipes, trying the new restaurant, and figuring out how to eat our troubles away. How do we draw a healthy line? I'm still trying to figure this one out, but hopefully I can share some things I've learned throughout this journey that have helped me.